I have been separated for four years, and everybody wants to know why do they have to listen to my whining about my husband having a girlfriend.
Everybody thinks I should have moved on by now. Four years later I am barely coming to grips that he can’t love me and just found out that he had to prove I was no longer living with him before she would date him. All this is new to me, so guess what. I am barely mourning the death of my marriage. Delayed, I guess, if someone could tell me how to turn it off, I will.
I’m renting a room for $200 a month from my husband but the catch is that I have to witness him as he has moved on with his life. He has a younger more Asian girlfriend who doesn’t care that he sleeps around.
He has bugged me because he feels we should all be able to sit down and have dinner together. Yeah, poor girlfriend feels neglected because she can’t come over. Did I remind you that we’re still legally married? Just checking. Yeah, he is my husband.
Later that day, my husband brings me his phone to show me something and lo and behold she is his wallpaper on his phone. My stomach dropped and I felt this fire in the pit of my stomach. Ever heard the phrase, “I saw red!” Oh yeah, I swear I was in hell.
He started apologizing, but I was pissed and finally got on my Facebook and sent her a message.
“Sad is the woman whose mother never taught her to respect other women and especially herself by never sleeping with a married man. You feel you won, but what did you lose, other married women’s trust, your morals, your dignity as a lady, your character, values and decency as a human. Oh but dont feel bad, you won the label “Homewrecking Whore” and a lifelong brick in your gut that he left an over 30 year marriage for you, so you won a man whose values of loyalty and commitment is not in his nature. You will never be the onlybone, this i promise you. Oh yeah, he never left the marriage because he’s still married four years later. Let’s not forget he didn’t care that you threatened to leave him if he let me move back in. I’m still here.
I continued, …”even if you try to justify your actions because he says I am a crazy bitch who is sick and doesn’t love me. He is right, loving a cheater who can’t love anyone made me this way. I’m sure you know the feeling since he labels you as the crazy smothering bitch who he doesn’t love to me all the time. And only took you back because of your persistance since you are part of his friends circle, he felt obligated. I’m not saying he is right, just what he says behind your back to ALL of us in this house. Let’s not forget “Homewrecking Whore”. Oh yeah, “Alcoholic annoying lush” is the other…”
He is with her now, so will he be mad when he gets home? Oh yes, darn me I keep blowing his cover. And her, poor thing she will call him back to back because her lovers wife lashed out on her.
Such a pity that she go through all this because she says there are no good quality single men out there.
Uh, ok so she settles for a married man that she feels has potential. Not the brightest girl…