MOM STAY WITH DAD 3.11.13
Some kids want mom to get back together with their dad. Remember I was a bratty child whose parents were going through a divorce. When my mom told us, we were going to get a divorce I wondered why wasn’t I sad. My house was the Mexican Brady Bunch.
Mom was home cooking up a storm, my pap came home with his lunch box full of treats, no arguing, he would build things.
I thought life was perfect, our house was the best, after the divorce poverty hit pretty bad. The perfect marriage died or maybe never was, I was a kid, they didn’t show it maybe. I wish they would have stayed together.
So when my loveless marriage wasn’t working, I didn’t want the same for my kids, I did everything I could to save my marriage. I was trying to save “my” childhood. At one point we did separate and my daughter came to me and upset told me that she was the only one in her class that parents were going through a divorce. That hit me hard. I have to save this marriage and I went back to my horrid marriage.
Now as adults my children tell me they wished that I would have left years ago so they wouldn’t have went through so much. Let me tell you, my kids went through a lot. I should have left sooner.
Children want their parents to live happily ever after but do they know everything, hopefully you have sheltered them from the adult problems.
As adults they will understand and they won’t come to you and say, why didn’t you leave sooner. It is better to live in a functional single parent home, than a two parent dysfunctional home….
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I am the single parent of three children. One day my eldest daughter came home form a friend’s house and gave me a huge hug saying, “Wow, there are so many families with two parents that are dysfunctional, but we are not a dysfunctional family. I love you Mommy bear”
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Wow you are blessed, I find my children too were given to me to compensate for the man I would end up with. For your child to say that shows that you have given them a life that has sheltered and nurtured them from the ugliness that lies out there. Koodles hun, It takes a lot to be a great mom, and you done it.
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Thank you, I hope so
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Thank you, I hope so
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So true and very well said. My parents divorced when I was an adult. They were miserable, and it was obvious to us kids. As a result I didn’t get to see two people in love as an example of what marriage looks like. I in turn settled for loveless relationships until I figured out that I deserved more. Now I would rather be single than in settle.
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Better to travel alone than to travel with a bad companion… I hold on tight to that…Janine are you a professional writer?
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Absolutely, I can remember when my mood depended on my partner and his was always bringing me down. I really like that saying, definitely words to live by.
No not yet, but I am working on that. It has always been my first love. I got some things published in grad school. So now I am trying to fulfill my dreams in the second half of my life. 🙂
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ME TOO!!! MY SECOND HALF IS TURNING OUT TO BE THE BEST HALF!!! HMMM COULD IT BE THAT HE ISN’T IN IT????
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Reblogged this on Starting Over After 50.
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