OBSESSING OVER HIM!!! 3.11.13
If you are obsessed you know who you are. Calling him a million and one times. Checking his Face book, who the hell is that friend, she is kind of slutty looking, damn I can’t look at her wall, let me shoot him a text, he didn’t answer, let me shoot him how I really feel, but I forgot to say about this other feeling so I need to send him another text and the text is 20 inches long and you are starting to get callused on your thumbs or index finger depending on how you text. DAMN AND ONCE YOU START HOW DO YOU STOP!!! Is doing drugs any different!!! I don’t think so, it becomes an addiction!!!
Men become fixes to us. They become like a drug. They decide how our day is going to go. Did he answer and give us the attention that we required, yes. Well then our day is going to be ok. No? Well then our day is going to be about why the hell is he not answering us, where the hell is he, and who the hell is he bleeping!! We can’t focus on anything else! We snap, we stare at our phone, oh boy our phone better stay by our side because maybe just maybe he is going to call us any second.
Ok you decide. It is over, he has neglected you, he has led you to go crazy and made you feel like this, he obviously cares nothing about you and probably is with somebody else so this time you are done. So you shoot him a text that you are done. This time you mean it, you may even do an Adele like message, I wish you well in your life, I wish you no harm. Good luck. Good bye. Aloha and all that good stuff. Send. Done. Whew that feels good. Now you can move on and live your life!
Five minutes later, that mother, good for nothing…you don’t wish him well. You pick up your phone again. Send him another text. This time the text is, “You are nothing but a piece of bleep bleep, and I hope you rot in bleep bleep!”
Argh Argh Argh!!! Pure and sheer madness! I don’t know how many of you have been there, I have and it is the most horrible horrible crazy making madness that we could put ourselves in, I repeat, THAT WE COULD PUT OURSELVES IN!!!
I feel your pain love, I really do, you say nobody understands, I have been there, I do, but let me tell you something, you are killing your sanity and we have to stop you. You are saying Yes help me! Ok lets!
It is called the “No Contact” assignment and it goes like this:
1. Get that phone and put it out of your reach! (But wait you say what if there is some emergency and they really need to reach you. Do you remember 20 years ago. There were no cells and people got a hold of people when there were emergencies so relax).
While at work, what I would do is put my phone in my car and leave it there. I would do it for periods of time. I would not allow myself my phone while I was at work the entire day. Just like an alcoholic must stay away from a drink, you have to see this as an obsession, an addiction and you have to take it one minute at a time. I cannot call him for a minute, then an hour then a day.
2. No Texting!
3. No driving by his house!
4. Face Book, UNFRIEND! Yes you heard me right, you need to unfriend him right now because you don’t need to see his activities. Plus you know you are going to be obsessing with putting up posts to try to make him jealous. No! You need to unfriend him now!
Stop any action you are finding that is becoming obsessive. Be honest with yourself. Keep your dignity. What man wants a woman who is chasing after him like a loony. Sit down and watch Fatal Attraction. You could end up with a restraining order. I don’t mean to sound insensitive, it happens.
YOU HAVE TO FIND OTHER ACTIVITIES TO DISTRACT YOUR MIND!!! This is so much easier said then done because at first he is first and foremost the first thing in your head. He is the first thing you think of when you wake up and when you go to bed. Ya have to change this baby, he just isn’t worth the energy. Don’t make him important when you are not even a priority.