10 thoughts on “MY PENSION IS AT STAKE!!!

  1. It gets easier. I promise. And just because a piece of paper says you are still married doesn’t mean you have to live like you still are. You can start working on the steps for separating yourself emotionally. Financially. Completely. Setting up healthy boundaries. Moving on. Time makes it easier. I used to only be able to pray for my ex when I was pooping on the toilet. Best time. Seriously. Try it. Now I do so openly (the praying, not the pooping, that would be weird). And ask others to join me. Not because I like him, but because he needs it. Because I’m happy and have moved on but he can’t (six years later). And that’s sad to me. You’ll get there. Just don’t forget to do the moving on thing. The more you focus on your life without him, the easier it gets to pray for him.

    And remember. It’s just money. There’s no price that can be placed on your happiness. Your freedom. Your sanity. The only way to survive divorce is to keep telling yourself that. It’s just money.

    Good luck. Happy to be following along with your blog. I like the way you write!

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    • THE MOM~!!!! YOU ARE MY HERO AND I LOVE YOU!!!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL WORDS AND I HOPE YOU DON’T READ MY BLOG WHILE YOU POOP…BUT IF YOU DO…POOP ON!!!
      I WILL MOVE ON…CATALINA IS GOING TO DO BIG THINGS…I START MY WRITING CLASSES TOMORROW AND I PLAN ON DOING BIG THINGS WITH MY WRITING BECAUSE THIS IS MY PASSION!!
      THANK YOU AGAIN!!

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  2. I am a worrier but almost always tell people not to worry! There is much comfort here in the blogs world where we will all encourage and nurture you! I know that I am older by 10-15 years or more.. but I do not wish anyone to lose or have to worry about their pension money! So, take care and good luck!

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  3. Oh I feel your pain. It is so hard to lose your hopes and dreams. It is so hard to lose the familiar and the comfort of it. Then to add insult to injury you have to lose your security with it? God I hope that this does not happen to you. I will tell you that I have used that very prayer on exes, and it works. It is hard to do it at first, but in my experience it not only got easier, but it worked. It made me much happier and me richer for it. (They did not get what I prayed for for them, I did, if that helps hehe!) Good luck.

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    • Thank you I decided to hand my worries over to the hands of God…this does not mean I will lay down and not fight for what is mine, but I will release the worry and stress because that will only make me sick, because what is going to happen is going to happen, I have no control over that. That ball of anger and stress in my belly just has to go! Dear God take it from me and restore that happiness I have been working so hard to achieve and let me jump around in the morning to Gloria Madonna’s “Lucky Star!” and just hope for the best and accept life for what it is!

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      • Yes that’s the spirit. You will find that your fight will get easier and in my case a little help from karma. When you are in the right frame of mind with the universe, it gives back to you. You can only follow God’s lead if you step out of the darkness into the light to see it. That is only possible if you lose all the anger and just trust and accept that God is on your side and you are doing your part. Sorry not trying to preach, just telling you what worked for me. I hope you are dancing to “Lucky Star” today! Good luck. Love and peace, Janine

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    • At the very least maybe God will see, wow look at this chickie after all he did to her she has such a good heart that she is praying for her, I think I will give her what she wants and ten folds more!!!

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  4. Catalina, you sound like a strong woman! Hang in there. Three years ago as I got the shock of my life, unexpected divorce, I never thought I’d survive. In talking with a counselor on how to help my kids through, I remember him saying, “Anger and sadness are not bad emotions. Because you can feel them and move past them. Uncertainty is toxic because it has no end.” The counselor advised me not to distract my kids or will them to feel better but to let them feel the loss and the emotions. It made me think… why should it be any different for me? It was great advice. If you aren’t ready to pray for his prosperity… don’t. You’ll be ready… whenever you are ready. And not a moment before. Feel whatever emotions you have at the moment you have them. My $.02 for all its worth! 🙂

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    • You know what prosperity I am willing to give him, your $.02 cents…I think that is all he is worth…My God he is inheriting his mothers 4 bedroom house, I am ending up with nothing, at least let me have my pension. So no I do not want to wish for his prosperity…but he can have your $.02…Thank you

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