Will Time Heal This Loneliness?
Can you believe it has been almost 2 years since I separated with my husband, and a year and a half since I had a boyfriend. It says that you should wait and heal. Don’t jump into another relationship too fast…So that is what I have done. Yup, waiting and waiting.Did I say I was waiting? Yup, I am still here waiting. Been real good at it too. Some might say I have become a real pro. Went to see a movie and play pool with a male and made it real clear that he was not going to get to even first base so don’t even try. Well he tried. Being the pro that I am, I caught him right in his tracks. I said, “Oh no you don’t mistah! Don’t you know that I am working on me! Steve Harvey says if you like me, you have to wait around for six months”. Guess what? Ha! He never called again.
So a year and a half since my last boyfriend, and I am waiting and healing and working on myself.
I was watching some television and I don’t know what came over me, I felt lonely. It is happening a lot lately. No, it isn’t horniness, so get that off your dirty mind. I just kinda, sorta, wish I had someone to joke around with, talk at, tease. male attention.
I love my girlfriends and my kids and my family, but there is a different dynamic with male attention and I don’t mean that you are even going to have sex with them. I am talking about the male-female friendship part of being a couple. I miss that.
I have had to learn to be happy by being by myself so even the mention that I feel lonely is such a taboo word. Guess what people…I do feel lonely a lot of the time, but I push that feeling down because I am not supposed to project that feeling or else it means I am not healing and man if I am not healing then will I ever get to where I should be to? Exactly where am I supposed to get anyways. Sometimes I don’t even know.
Tonight is a hiccup and it will pass, but there are days, nights, moments, where I fall off my little pink cloud and just feel like licking my wounds because there are still some that have not healed, ouch, it’s smarts still. Time right?
Don’t stare at the clock, just wait and let the time pass but don’t think of the time and one day the pain will be gone.
Please hurry Father Time….
How much time passed?
Are we there yet?
I wrote this not too long ago and I just realized that so much has changed. This is a sad post. Things are much better~!
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So totally understand this. The waiting. The missing. The pain. Yup. Mine shows up in humor and sarcasm. But it doesnt cover it as well as I think it does.
I keep hoping it’ll get better. Hang in there
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Thank you for responding. Good to know other people feel the same way! We are all in this together.
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Hope you come out of this ordeal fast. I have experienced the pain of waiting and loneliness and even now feel lonely occasionally. All the best
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Thanks for sharing from the place of lonely. I had a similar moment this past weekend. I’m separated now for a year and half and it struck me how often the feeling of loneliness comes and goes and I don’t often stop to acknowledge or verbalize that. Lovely to reach out and pause in that moment and find connection through your blog. We can do lonely. Maybe we just need to redefine what that all means and take the negative spin off of the word. I wrote this piece about the lexicon of how we loved another. Breaking up is so very hard because I think the memory lives not just in the mind but in the body too. No wonder we *feel* lonely throughout the body. Wishing you love and grace in the loneliness. http://dodiesobretodo.wordpress.com/2014/11/19/the-audacity-of-divorce-court/
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