TEACH ME HOW TO BE SINGLE!

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I was just told, in order to properly heal, I have to mourn the end of one relationship before starting a new one. One step further, for up to six months!

The concept of being alone is this to “find myself”. What exactly am I finding? What does this mean? Am I on the back of a milk carton reported missing? Because last time I checked, I never left.

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I DON’T KNOW HOW TO BE SINGLE!!!!

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I DON’T KNOW HOW TO BE SINGLE!!!

Here I go again. What’s the matta with you! Like an Italian mama would scold! I have not even ended my marriage and here I am starting a new relationship and wondering why it isn’t going fast enough for me! Aye dios mio! Ok now we have a Mexican mamasita in on the scolding! Before we are done we are going to have a whole melting pot of mama’s scolding me because I am way over my head.

For real peoples I don’t know what is the matter with me. Loneliness, boredom, horniness, yes I said it, I was horny! Women get horny to you know. Maybe I didn’t want to feel anything that I was going to go through because of my divorce and this was the answer, jump into a relationship. It worked. I was swept off my feet by a fabulous man who really kept me busy and entertained me and showed me affection that I hadn’t felt during my marriage. He gave me what I had been craving for 30 years.
I really care for this person but I feel that we are on two very different journeys in life and the longer I continue with him, the more it will hurt when I do end it with him. No matter what it is going to be devastating to be without him because then I will have to face the demons of really being alone.

I always said, aren’t men like jobs, you can’t quit your job without having another job waiting for you. I guess I don’t know how to be alone. I guess I always need to have a man in my life, it has always been that way, I don’t think that is healthy. Stay tuned.

I may take the leap of being REALLY single for the first time in my life….can she do it people…stay tuned!

WHAT ARE YOU ATTRACTING IN YOUR LIFE?

 

WHAT ARE YOU ATTRACTING IN YOUR LIFE????

Today I looked at something I wrote a bit ago and thought, hmmm, this is a nice quote,

“You attract love if you love yourself, you attract respect if you respect yourself.”

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HOW TO TREAT A MATE…

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HOW TO TREAT YOUR MATE

But I still wonder how does one learn how to be a good mate. I have good common sense. You show respect and treat them well. Be loving and attentive but allow them space. They need to be who they want to be. They need to be able to water their friendships too. And never forget to always keep your friendships alive. Respect each other’s living spaces. Care for yourself hygienically and healthily, this if for them but more importantly for yourself. Always be kind to them and show them that you care, never be rude even when you are angry. Keep the passion alive in the bedroom and keep it fun. Express appreciation for who they are and honesty is very important. All this seems so much, but when you really care about someone, all this should come so naturally.

I COULDN’T WAIT TO START DATING!!!

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I COULDN’T WAIT TO START DATING

Why am I supposed to wait to date? I am being honest and real, I didn’t wait. I liked someone so I went at it. Yikes…bad girl! Bad girl!

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WAKE UP INNER GODDESS!!!!

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WAKE UP INNER GODDESS!!!

Let’s talk about something a little taboo shall we? Let’s get a little naughty shall we? Shall we pretend we are bad little kids huddled in a fort with our curiosity going a little on the wild side and let the topic go off a little tiny bit sexy…not raunchy…not obscene…just a little warm!

Now I don’t know about anybody else, but lying in the same bed with my husband night after night and my marriage was dead, and there was no intimacy, well it just did something to me as a woman. When my marriage started to die, I started to take care of myself more, taking more time on my make-up, my physique, my clothes became a little more stylish.

Most people do the opposite, when their marriage go south, they start letting themselves go. I felt I had a point to prove to my husband, I wanted to make damn sure he knew I was not going to lay down and die, I wanted to make sure he knew I was going to go on without him and I was going to look damn good as I did it. And yeah, I did the taboo thing, I started dating right away.

This was “my” way to feel good about myself, right-wrong, whatever, if this is was wrong, I don’t want to be right!! Like the song goes.

But anyways…let’s get back to topic. I have taken Belly Dancing before and I am getting back into it. I am serious…I am getting into every kind of activity I can put my greedy little hands on. But one of the things they teach you in Belly Dancing is waking up your Kundalini… which is like a snake in your spine, and your “Inner Goddess”. If you read The Fifty Shades of Grey, whew what a book, but that crazy girl is very in tune with her “Inner Goddess”, now I don’t expect you to wake it up that much, I mean if you want to get into whips and chains, who am I to judge but for me, my good ol’ just sensual self is fine. I find it is very important as part of being a woman to be in tune with this part of yourself.

Many women who have faced rejection because of divorce or separation have lost touch of this and this is the last thing on their mind. Maybe it is too soon, maybe it is something that just needs a little coaxing. Please church people don’t write me hate mail, if you rather stay true to God, I totally respect that, I really really do, but please respect me as I respect you…Ok?

But if you don’t feel uncomfortable, put on something cute, do your hair a little different, try a belly dancing class. Nobody is saying go out and start hitting up Tom, Dick and Harry. I am just saying, maybe your Inner Goddess is ready to start waking up again. Maybe you want to feel like a woman again. Maybe your ex maybe made you feel not so attractive and rejected you and it is time for you to do some things some cutsie things. I am thinking about taking an exotic dancing class, NO NOT CAUSE I WANT TO GET A PART TIME JOB!! A friend suggested it and it sounds fun! I am very comfortable with myself as a woman and my sexuality, my husband did not take that away from me as many woman suffer from and I am blessed with that it didn’t affect me. I celebrate my “Inner Goddess”! Woo Hoo!!