I have uncovered the straight-forward bare facts of what a man really really wants in a woman. This comes from and candid interview with a single male who isn’t telling all the flowery things we want to hear. He will show candidly and explicitly what not only keeps a man, but keeps a man from cheating.
After a break-up or a miss-hit with a guy, don’t you want to know what really went wrong. Guys can beat around the bush and play their games, but no more, let’s find out what is going on in that head of theirs.
I chose this particular person to do the interview with because this is not an actor who needs to keep face. It is not from an ex or current beau who will only tell me what I want to hear. I knew I could count on this person who shall remain anonymous to avoid backlash. You will see why in the interview. Let’s call him John Doe for his anonymity.
Catalina: Thank you so much for doing this for me. Although you know who I am, let me tell you anyways so you know my purpose of asking for your interview. I am Catalina Zamora, author of the blog, “Divorcee Got Wings.” The reason I wanted to interview you is to show a male point of view and I know you will tell me what I want to know. No judgement, in fact I think it will be fascinating.
John Doe: Ok I am ready.
Catalina: First of all can you tell me what 5 qualities you look for in a woman. Now I know men are visual so I am asking for qualities that have nothing to do with looks.
John Doe: Sense of humor, laughter, affectionate, up for anything and willing to give things a chance with an open mind, be able to adapt to any situation instead of always complaining.
Catalina: Now, now I said good qualities. Ha!, you are already telling me bad qualities and I didn’t get to that part. Ok next tell 5 qualities that are deal breakers for you. In other words, you would not want to date a woman with these 5 qualities you are going to come up with yourself.
John Doe: Too flirty, always wanting to be out partying like drinking. Being selfish. Being close-minded. Oh and not have any family values, for me family comes first.
Catalina: Now how will you respond to many women’s complaints that all the good men are taken?
John Doe: Because the men that are single today have gone through something in a relationship that has damaged them or they get bored. They are acting out and enjoying single life. They play single games because they have been hurt and don’t like commitment . At some point though, it either gets boring again and they start looking for that true go to girl to love.
Catalina: Now what do you think is the biggest reason a man is afraid of relationships?
John Doe: If a man does not really love a woman they will always look at other woman and wonder. A woman has to take care to their men. Be beautiful, classy well dressed, sexy and a freak to their man.
Catalina: How do you feel about the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence?
John Doe: Some men are not happy and never fell in love with their woman. If a woman can be a freak to their man do things and be spontaneous they will never leave that I for men
Catalina: So are you saying men tie sex and love together.
John Doe: Kind of. In men’s eyes, good sex makes us fall in love. And all the other things that I said, sense of humor, affectionate, that keeps them around and happy.
Catalina: So if a woman is lacking in her sexual skills, he will not be able to truly love her?
John Doe: A woman has to keep man happy. Keep herself visually attractive also.
Catalina: Ok, so even though I said I wanted to concentrate on personality attributes and not appearance, you brought it up. Is appearance that important?
John Doe: Yes, send sexy pics or send texts about what they are going to do to them when they get home from work. I am just letting you in the mind of a man. You wanted straight up answers right?
Catalina: Of course. So if a woman gains like 30-40 pounds but dresses sexy and does everything to please her man, is that a woman men will stay with? Or will they start looking over the fence where it is greener?
John Doe: Yes he will be happy. At the same time though, if she is gaining too much weight, she should try to get back into shape because it will be better for the relationship.
Catalina: Wait, you are giving me conflicting information. Do you feel weight is an important issue?
John Doe: Yes, most men will be looking at other women in tight clothes and small bikinis.
Catalina: Wow, that sounds like that is quite some pressure to put on a woman. They have to keep in shape and keep up with your freaky self in bed. You realize this is probably going to get some backlash.
John Doe: Do you want me to tell you what guys think, and talk to each other about. You wanted to know, so I told you what guys talk about and what we feel.
Catalina: I said no judgement, and I meant it. Thank you John Doe for being so open. By the way, I will be contacting you again for “Men’s Point of View” sessions.
John Doe: Anytime.
After Interview Afterthought: I would like to hear from women out there on their reaction to what John Doe shared with us. Let me tell you one thing, I, was a little perturbed by the comment about the weight gain. At the same time, I really believe that the majority of men feel that way. This is not to say that a man is going to cheat, what I am saying that their eyes do start to wonder. I also have to add, I don’t think I would be led to cheat on my spouse if he gained 30-40 pounds. For me that would not be a reason to cheat.
So this interview went in a different direction than I had meant it to but I did find out some good stuff. Men want eye candy to have sex with and then he will fall in love and stay with her forever? In a nut shell that is what he said correct? Think about it ladies, if that was not the case there would not be so many nudie bars and strip clubs. When is the last time you seen a strip club on every corner for women? I have to say this interview, as scary as it sounds, there is a lot of truth to what he said.
I would be interested in hearing from some men also.
Thank you, until next time…Ciao!