Signs You Are Getting Bitter! 

Now I am not going to say that I never get bitter, it is natural especially if you were the one that was left.  Watch yourself and if you start talking like this, YOU ARE OFFICIALLY GETTING BITTER!  Bitter alert, bitter alert! Don’t sound like this: “Did you see his new ho, she is hideous!” … Continue reading Signs You Are Getting Bitter! 

When Your Family Can’t Let Your Ex Go

  It has been 2 ½ years since my husband asked me to move out and he wanted a divorce. I am fully aware that it is important to be civil to each other in front of the kids. The Problem: My kids want their father to be part of my family gatherings. What is … Continue reading When Your Family Can’t Let Your Ex Go

Why Dating Right After A Break-Up Is All Bad!

Divorce is easy...so I thought!   Didn't even hurt..so I thought!   I thought I was the divorce guru.  My hubby of almost 30 YEARS dumped me.  Know what happened to me? I grabbed me a new boyfriend in Vegas and life was all about finding cute clothes and keeping in shape. Every three weeks … Continue reading Why Dating Right After A Break-Up Is All Bad!

WILL YOU EVER FEEL LIKE A STRANGER TO ME?

  I can remember being in so much pain, I can remember seeing no end to the pain. I would think, ok let today be a day I don’t think of you….shit! I didn’t even last a half hour. The tears in the pillows, the breaking down at work and pretending that everything is ok. … Continue reading WILL YOU EVER FEEL LIKE A STRANGER TO ME?

BECOMING FRIENDS WITH MY EX AGAIN

  What does it mean that I miss you I don’t want you back I don’t want you as mine   But I miss you to talk to And the exchange of our words   A funny thing happened So I picked up the phone   Then I remembered I hated you And put down … Continue reading BECOMING FRIENDS WITH MY EX AGAIN

LEARNING TO SLEEP ALONE

LEARNING TO SLEEP ALONE   One of the hardest parts of learning to be alone was not having a body next to mine.  Don’t get me wrong, there for a long time my husband and I were sleeping in the same bed and accidentally our feet would touch and it was like Kryptonite.  I would … Continue reading LEARNING TO SLEEP ALONE

LEARNING TO EAT ALONE

Learning to Eat Alone I was extra hungry tonight. What a crazy day, it was so crazy I missed lunch, for me that is CRAZY because me missing a meal? Yeah right. Nobody is going to believe that. I grew up in a big Latin family and cooking is in my blood and it was … Continue reading LEARNING TO EAT ALONE

Tranquility Pools

  Tranquility Pools What is this I feel in my heart What is this I feel in my soul The thrashing of the oceans have stopped The crushing of waves against the cliffs have ceased All this I carried within every part of me Developed by pain, anger, resentment At times the tides were so … Continue reading Tranquility Pools

BE HAPPY WITHOUT HIM

BE HAPPY WITHOUT HIM Have you ever thought that maybe you are not happy with your life after divorce/separation because you don’t want to be?  Now, now, before you start sending me “hate” replies, keep reading so I can explain.  I watched this documentary on happiness and they showed this family that lived in South … Continue reading BE HAPPY WITHOUT HIM

Healing From A Divorce

Healing From a Divorce I picked up a book called…well maybe I shouldn’t blast the name of the book since I don’t want those two crazy …yes crazy…authors coming after me. I wouldn’t even line the bottom of a bird-cage for birds to poop on. I take it back, I do want birds to poop … Continue reading Healing From A Divorce